Why we Procrastinate, and 3 Ways to Push Forward

“Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary.” Galatians 6:9

Procrastination has been hindering people for generations. It is not a new concept just because of modern technology, although the internet and cell phones have become quick distractions to our undesirable tasks. Social media, cell phones, Netflix and other lovely inventions impact how easy it is to put things off. Turning our attention from a dreaded task to something that frees our mind for the moment of worry, which eventually cause more stress. Neal Thakkar records that there was an increase of 10-15% of people who admitted to being chronical procrastinators from 1978 to 2009.  Psychologists agree that procrastination is due to many contributing factors. The Temporal Motivational Theory being the most recent theory includes fear of failure, self-regulatory failures, low self-efficacy, motivation, and time. All those factors are directly related to how we view the task and ourselves.

“Lack of confidence, sometimes alternating with unrealistic dreams of heroic success, often leads to procrastination, and many studies suggest that procrastinators are self-handicappers: rather than risk failure, they prefer to create conditions that make success impossible, a reflex that of course creates a vicious cycle.” ― James Surowiecki

Self-Downing, Self-Doubt, and Fear of Failure are all irrational beliefs. “Irrational belief is cognitive distortion, an illogical, erroneous, or distorted idea, firmly held despite objective contradictory evidence.” While a rational belief is defined as reasonable, objective, flexible, and constructive conclusions or inferences about reality that support survival, happiness, and healthy result.

Ways to overcome procrastination.

“For God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but of power and love and discipline.” 2 Timothy 1:7

Remember that you have gifts to offer the world.

In whatever we do for another person, we are gifting our time to a greater cause. Whether it be turning in homework for our teacher, laundry for our family, writing to expand the knowledge of others. You have gifts to offer and sometimes the smallest gifts can mean the most.

You can do anything you choose to.

The key to success is reminding yourself it is possible, sometimes we might have to take a different route, but it is possible. I struggle the most with laundry, often I chose not to do it and find other ways to occupy my time, all the while I have this nagging in the back of my mind about how I need to get it done. My family needs clean clothes to wear, and eventually it must get done either way. But my choice to put it off, leads to thoughts of lack of worth, I’m a crappy wife for not getting the laundry done, which leads to other thoughts of failure, causing a cycle of self-pity, and not getting any laundry done. All because of one choice to put it off.

Remember it doesn’t have to be perfect.

David D. Burns says, “Perfection’ is man’s ultimate illusion. It simply doesn’t exist in the universe…. If you are a perfectionist, you are guaranteed to be a loser in whatever you do.” Reminding yourself that it doesn’t have to be perfect, helps to remove doubt of being successful out of your mind. It takes failure and imperfections to find just the right way for you.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

Create your website with WordPress.com
Get started
%d bloggers like this:
search previous next tag category expand menu location phone mail time cart zoom edit close